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Membership Warm-Up

How does this work, work? Is it about watching the videos and doing the practices, over and over?

This work is like learning a second language or a musical instrument.

At first, it takes a lot of practice and repetition. You need to build your vocabulary—understanding how things fit together until they become second nature.

Over time, it’s less about watching videos or listening to audios and more about embodying the work so deeply that it’s just there, ready to be used in real time. Like speaking a language fluently, where you don’t have to think about every word, or playing music with ease, able to improvise in the moment.

Nervous system mastery is when you naturally orient throughout the day, aware of what’s happening inside you in response to your environment, and able to move with it—your body expressing what it needs, to ebb and flow with life.

What if I fall behind? I am trying to go at my own pace but frustrated at being behind! I can’t keep up with the monthly pace, so how can I benefit from this work when I can only do a tiny bit, without getting overwhelmed and/or crashing?

There’s no such thing as behind in this work. Being “up to date” isn’t necessarily a sign of integration—true progress happens at the pace your system can actually absorb.

The monthly structure is just a way to organise the material, not a timeline you need to rigidly follow. What matters is finding the rhythm that works for you. If we try to push through too much too fast, we risk reinforcing the very patterns we’re here to shift.

If frustration is coming up, see if you can meet it with curiosity. Can you feel it in your body? If so, try resting a hand there, not to fix it, but just to acknowledge it. If not, simply have an internal dialogue with that part of you—let it know you hear it, and that healing isn’t about “keeping up” but about moving in a way that feels right for your system.

Small, consistent steps—with enough space for integration—are what create real, lasting change. Even when it feels like nothing is happening, those little moments add up. Less is truly more. There is zero rush. You’re exactly where you need to be.

How to know when you need a break from the work?

If you’re feeling exhausted, spacey, disconnected, numb—or on the other end of the spectrum, agitated, tense, or irritable—while engaging with the work, that’s a sign it might be time to take a break.

It’s completely normal to have moments of these experiences as your system adjusts, but if they persist beyond a few minutes and don’t shift no matter what you try, that’s usually an indication to step away for a bit. Your system might be asking for more time to integrate what you’ve already taken in before moving on to the next piece.

On a bigger scale, if your symptoms flare up after a video or practice, that’s also normal. But if they don’t settle within about 24 hours, it’s often a sign that you’ve done too much at once. That’s useful information for pacing yourself in the future.

So often in this work, less truly is more. If we push past what we can integrate, it can reinforce a sense that this material is overwhelming or even unsafe to engage with—and that’s the opposite of what we want. The goal isn’t to power through; it’s to work with your system, at a pace that allows real, lasting shifts.

Can you explain a bit more about why some of us have constant disturbing dreams? Why is the body/mind perceiving such a threat at night? And what can we do?

When we carry unresolved trauma, it doesn’t disappear when we sleep. That survival energy is still running in the background, influencing not just our waking state but also the subconscious landscapes we move through in dreams. This is why disturbing or bizarre dreams are so common—they’re another way our system expresses and processes stored survival energy.

So what can you do? Keep going with this work. When we consistently support our system in daily life, those shifts often show up in our dreams too. I see it happen all the time—people who once felt powerless in recurring nightmares suddenly find themselves able to say no, fight back, or escape. The healing crosses over.

If you wake up from a distressing dream, you have a couple of options:

1️⃣ Soothe your system. Use whatever external "auto-regulating" resources work for you—warm tea, soft blankets, grounding touch, a favorite stuffed animal. Let your body feel safe again.

2️⃣ Engage with the imagery. This is a more active approach, and it requires a bit more capacity. Instead of just calming yourself, you work with the fear and flight energy. Sit up, plant your feet on the floor, and let your legs move as if you’re running—giving your body a chance to process the escape it couldn’t complete in the dream. Or, shift into fight energy—imagine confronting the source of fear, using healthy aggression practices (taught in the membership) to express self-protection.

Both approaches are valid. It’s about what feels right for you in the moment.

Why do I get so tired during the videos and/or practices? Or, why do I feel more activated – stressed, angry, afraid – after the videos and/or practices?

This work is designed to help you understand what’s happening in your system so you can relate to your internal experiences with more awareness and less reactivity. And as you engage with the material—whether through education or practice—you’re also inviting your system to shift. That can mean old, stuck survival energy starts moving, which doesn’t always feel good in the way we typically expect.

If you’re feeling really tired (and it’s not just from lack of sleep), your system likely just did some deep work—yes, even from simply taking in the theory. If this keeps happening, it’s a sign to go slower and do less at a time. The same applies if you’re feeling more activated—stressed, angry, afraid.

Either way, the most important thing is to listen to your system. If you start feeling exhausted or agitated while watching a video or doing a practice, pause. Step away, do something else, and come back to it later. There’s no rush.

I wake up with a racing heart, fear, and panic. How do I work with this?

Big picture: Keep going with the work. Waking up with a racing heart, fear, or panic is a sign of unresolved fight/flight energy in the system. Over time, as you build regulation and clear that stored survival energy, this will shift.

In the moment: You have two broad options—calm the activation or go with it.

If you want to calm it, focus on soothing your system. Use whatever external "auto-regulating" resources work for you—warm tea, a weighted blanket, pressing your feet into the floor, holding something comforting. Instead of trying to force yourself back to sleep, it often helps to actually get up and attend to your system first.
If you want to go with the activation, let your body express what it’s holding. Put your feet on the floor and let your legs move as if running, or engage with your Healthy Aggression practices (taught in the membership)—imagine the fear and allow your body to push back, to fight.

I couldn’t stop yawning during this video/practice. What does that mean?

It could just mean you are sleepy! But if you weren’t sleepy before you started, and then all of a sudden you are yawning like crazy, that most likely means that this education or practice is a bit intense for your system in this moment, and so the freeze response is starting to assert itself.

If this is the case, maybe try one practice only for a while or watching a video in tiny bits, instead of trying to make it through the entire recording.

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